Aggression in Children
Child Development / / August 12, 2017
Often we see the scene as a two-year baby swings on the mother pours sand on the neighbors in the sandbox, he grabs his hair, biting, pinching.From this child as aggression ?How to deal with it?
Up to 3 years old baby, according to the definition of psychology, is a "homeroom".That is, explores the features and capabilities of objects: purposefully throws cubes out of the crib and rattles, enjoying the sound of their fall, twists and tears buttons.If the field of view across the hair, for which so convenient to grab, he makes no distinction between them and other items.
Adults should take a clear and consistent position.When it comes to human, animals and even plants, baby needs time to hear the word "no".Saying it is necessary to calmly and firmly, holding the handle of the kid and looking into his eyes.In no case can not allow the baby felt pain.It is important that an adult at the time of suggestion is not hung menacingly over the child - the child's face should be on an adult level.
If the child continues to "malicious" attacks, say, "You're hurting me.I will not keep you on the handles. "Weaning baby usually starts asking to go back.Say you take him up, if he will not fight.In the sequential behavior of the baby is usually quite quickly learns acceptable behavioral norms.
child learns not only the properties of objects, but also the boundaries of what is permitted.In the adult meets the requirements of disobedience.Can wipe, hit the handle mother, father, etc.Calmly and methodically explain the unacceptability of such actions.In no event it is impossible to respond to aggression child adult aggression - screaming and slapping.Otherwise, the child will get visual confirmation of their ability to manipulate the adult: it turns out, he could bring them out of themselves.
The educational process can introduce an element of "steam dramatization".Child hit my mother.Calmly say, "It can not be done.I do not want you to see. ""Offended" mom can cover his face with his hands and pretend to cry.The third party should pay attention to this baby and encourage him to feel sorry for my mother, "Let her calm down, stroked.Mom is good, Sasha will no longer hurt her. "As a general rule, babies accept the rules of the game: it is important for them to arouse emotions in adults.Approval preferably negative.
If a child grows up in an atmosphere of indifference and psychological detachment mother, his behavior may acquire pronounced traits of aggressiveness: it helps to cause at least some response from the adult.In this situation, action aimed at the assimilation of the prohibitions will not be enough.It is necessary to fill the baby's life with positive emotions.