Child 's Dream .Falling asleep
Child Development / / April 14, 2016
Lie down with me, Mom
How to teach your baby to fall asleep on their own
kid two or three years, it is time to sleep.But he seemed specially stalling: it brought him some water, then straighten pad.Asks to push the curtains, and five minutes later require them to move apart: he, you see, like so much more.In general, it would be better if the mother will sit next to him - until he falls asleep.
Adults begin to get annoyed: how many cases still need to change, and want freedom does not come all!Here at the other child only touches the head cushion is already asleep.No special lulling requires.And it's ... Yeah, he just makes fun!Do not worry.Firstly, others, too, is different.Second, the time accumulated fatigue and irritation of the parents do not contribute to the correct assessment of the situation.
Why do not they like to sleep?
Kids, unlike adults, do not like to go to bed.They perceive a dream almost as much.As people archaic times.Ancient people thought about sleeping: here no time.Of course, the kid can not explain their behavior by saying.But every time before going to sleep he experiences the separation from loved ones (close your eyes and do not be), and the inability of active movement.
A young child thinks and feels mostly in motion.No wonder psychologists call it intelligence "psychomotor".It is not surprising that the baby all the means available to him wants to delay the unpleasant moment.In addition, it seems to the child that spend time on sleep is equivalent to pass something very interesting.
What should I do?
to laying not turned into a torture for adults, try to make this process a certain structure - based on psychological characteristics and needs of the baby.
Every mother can tell her two year old child with a fun play persistence requires some words and actions.For example, it is necessary to kiss him three times on the forehead and at first, and then on both cheeks;before bathing in the bathroom to put a rubber Pups, and then - the kid;porridge put in the same familiar a plate.
Parents wonder the insistent demands of the child at night to read the same story.Kid being very careful that the text is reproduced in full, without any gaps, and replacing words.
Why?At an early age the child learns a huge amount of information, its development is incredibly fast.Children's conservatism - the flip side of this process, a kind of protective reaction of the psyche from the variety of experiences.A dynamic world needs to get some stable characteristics, the fixed mark.
Kid fills their lives to create their own rituals.Each child's individual set of rituals.But almost all the children are trying to make the ritual character of his sleep.If you let things drift, drive at night to and fro mother (or nanny), and capricious - it can become a ritual for the child, and the fight against this habit will be painful.It is best to bring to the process a reasonable procedure and substance.
can not lay your baby to sleep in a hurry, accompanying his action with the words "Hurry, hurry!".It does not allow him to relax, creates unnecessary tensions could trigger whims.In laying need to keep time with a reserve, to be able to include in it and chat, and play.
Let the kid before bedtime "lose" his forthcoming laying: prepare a little bed for a doll, shake it, put to bed, kiss, wish "Good night!" - That is, do everything that makes a ritual of his own farewell before going to bed.
If a child is in something naughty, the conflict should be allowed to sleep, and in no case do not threaten penalties in the morning: "This wake up - I'll show you!".Kids do not understand delayed punishment, but falls asleep with the feeling that they do not like.This is a very painful experience.
Make reading or telling tales of the traditional joint exercises before going to bed.Read it and tell me next to the cot - then the child will associate with it the pleasant moments of communication.At night, better to read something familiar.During the reading, Put baby on his knees, press it to myself if he was sitting next to, or hold the handle: bodily contact creates a sense of unity and security.
Tiny hard to part with your favorite adult.Therefore, the "good-bye" to be filled with a special, pronounced manifestation of the feelings of love and confirmation of acceptance by the adult.Be sure to hug and kiss your baby, call a kind word before you leave the room.
sequence of your own actions and joint activities with a child should be repeated every day, so you can say, "We did something, so-and-so.Now you go to sleep, and I go to do business. "Be gentle but persistent.On appeals of the child should not answer after the end of the ritual.
Try to anticipate certain situations to prevent them.For example, you know, laid in a crib the baby once you leave, be sure to ask for some water.Offer him a drink beforehand, and then put it on the table next to a bed with a cup of water.If you are afraid of provocations ( "Mom! I shed vodichku!"), Pour the water into the bottle with a nipple.Do not worry if your child a bottle during the day does not enjoy: it will be a backdrop for evening activities.Similarly behave if the baby starts to ask for a pot.Put the pot in the crib.If a kid wants to pee, you have to do it without your help.
Heed to the request of the child to leave the night light in the room: many children are afraid of the dark, and there is no reason to leave them alone with their fears.Use the "magic" with the image of the lamp safely moving figures or objects.They meet the needs of the child to observe the movement and comfort.But includes a lamp just before going to sleep, when you yourself have already left the nursery.The image of the lamp with all its beauties to be "bound" exclusively to laying.At other times of the day it is better to clean the lamp with baby eyes.
your silent allies in laying can become stars, "manifested" in the light of a lamp, or other similar images.You can stick an asterisk each time in different places over the crib baby: "I'll be out of the room, and you try to find a new star eyes!".
Keep in mind that every child has individual features.If your baby suffers from a sleep disorder or has expressed neurotic symptoms, excessive rigidity of teaching can harm him.In such cases it is better to sacrifice the time and wait for half an hour in the crib until the baby falls asleep than his principled exacerbate existing problems.
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