Educational Program / / March 30, 2016
Ghonim myths away
There are eight of the most common prejudices that prevent young parents enjoy the joy of communicating with your baby.
All these myths or we have inherited from our mothers and grandmothers, or have appeared recently.To feel like a full-fledged mom and dad, a sober assessment of some of them.
1.Good mother loves her baby in advance
Sometimes, baby is not so, on what she wanted.And it takes time to feel your baby, love him.But finding just in your heart love many mothers try to hide it from yourself and from others, feel guilty.
too demanding, indulging, anxious mother - that those who interfere with the wine to be just good enough.Acknowledge their feelings, and the ability to appear instead of guilt and shame, to see, to know and love the real child, and her imaginary.
2.Children who breastfeed for a long time, grow dependent
kid really depends on the mother, which is provided by nature.This helps the child to survive, grow stronger.But the nature of the mechanism and has provided a gradual separation of the child from the mother.In addition to begin such an office, the kid is ready in 8-10 months, when he begins to experience the world of more intense interest, which is becoming more important than the mother's breast.
main thing is that you feel that moment and began to communicate with the baby on a new level.In itself, breastfeeding, no matter how much it may continue, does not lead to addiction.Difficulties arise in the case where the feeding is the only means by which a child may come into contact with the mother.
3.Mladenets does not understand the meaning of words
explain why their actions are not necessary.In fact, child psychologists claim that even a baby needs to tell him about the changes that happened in the family.And even more need to tell your child that you are going to do with him.
And it does not matter whether the child understands your speech.Important is not so much their content, how much emotional, sensory content.Studies show that children with whom the parents from the first days of life talking on equal terms, learn to speak faster and easier.
Parents such conversations help find the child better, feel and realize that they are dealing not with the object of care and education, and on the individual, with their special person.
4.Malysh needs silence and alone
Therefore, parents should refrain from trips to visit them, a café, exhibitions and other public places.First of all, kids need up to a year in the presence of parents and new impressions.In addition, the kids have a remarkable ability to sleep, even with a fairly high level of noise.
For many young families who do not have relatives or a nanny, an opportunity to go out with your baby - a real salvation.Of course, it is hardly helpful for the baby Seen a rock concert or a party in the beer garden.But in the museums, jazz or classical concerts, exhibitions, and family to visit restaurants - why not?
myth of "peace and quiet" usually supported by opinions of physicians: a child is not desirable to be in areas with large concentrations of people - the child's body is too susceptible to infections.Of course, when the city, seasonal influenza epidemic, with a small hike in the showroom or to friends is better to postpone.
But at other times the risk of getting the baby, who was peacefully sleeping in "kengurushki", while mom and dad talk with your friends, no more than the one who is going to walk in the elevator of a large apartment building.
5.If often take the baby in his arms, he will spoil
popularity of this myth is the fact that many parents are experiencing confusion in front of children, fear of what is now their existence depends on the child's needs.But to be in the vicinity of the adult body, feel the warmth of his mother's hands, to hear the sound of her heart kid necessary to feel secure.The main thing is not to miss the moment when the baby starts to show initiative and want more freedom.
6.Idealnye babies should occupy themselves independently
Gossip brings to us the legend of the little ones, who never cry, but when they want to eat, just delicately cheep.But many kids usually do not stand alone for more than five minutes, and insist that we held them in her arms, talking, rocked or entertained.In a word, so we talked to them and introduced them to the world.It is necessary to develop forcing children require constant attention from adults.
7.U proper mother the child is not naughty
kid does not cry, and is not sick, he stayed on the myth of patriarchal times, when motherhood was the only area in which a woman could be considered competent.The kid may cry and capricious, and hurt - it does not depend on the "quality" of the parents.But if the mother takes every alarming situation as evidence of its insolvency and feels guilty, it is difficult to take the necessary measures.
to cope with feelings of guilt, it is necessary to give up the fantasy of their own omnipotence.This fantasy makes mom feel responsible for everything that happens, forgetting that the baby does not live within it, and next to it.
8.Papa should be able to take care of the baby
he should do it as well, like my mother.Today more and more men are taking part in the care of children.But while fathers often feel invited assistants and not full participants.Mothers are not always willing to share with them the right to decide how the child to feed, clothe, put to bed.
criterion of "right" paternity can still be regarded as a man's ability to establish special, warm, different from women's relationships with their children.It's great when dad changing diapers and feeding the baby with a spoon.But if the science of care has remained a mystery to him, that is no reason to consider it "wrong".
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