Virtual romance : Is it possible to find love on the Internet?
Love / / December 12, 2017
The virtual world is called the vast expanses of the Internet. But to date, the virtual and real worlds are so intertwined with each other that it is sometimes difficult to determine where it really is. Let's take acquaintances. Earlier, another 15-20 years ago, where did young people get acquainted? At discos, in bars, educational institutions, libraries( yes, yes!).And now it becomes more and more adherents of acquaintances through the Internet. Numerous dating sites, social networks, real-time messaging programs( icq, skype) have become the place where people come to find friends, lovers, spouses.
What attracts a virtual acquaintance? As the active job seekers of their virtual halves say, it's easier to get acquainted through the Internet: "You lie on a comfortable sofa, look through photos, if someone is interested, you can write whatever you want. Such communication is easily given even by the most shy, who in real life will never be able to approach the person they like and get acquainted. "Thereis an opportunity, with all the richness of the choice, to find the partner you like best( according to external data).Then the correspondence begins. Indeed, you can write anything, anything: tell about yourself all the best, even if it's not entirely true. Internet communication is more frank than real: not everyone can say something personal and intimate in the eyes of a partner, but it's much easier to write on the screen. People are losing the face-to-face communication skills, everyone is so used to using a convenient intermediary for this purpose - the screen of a computer, a phone, iped, a tablet. ..
Still important is the fact that men and women, aiming at a career and working almost round the clock, there is no time to go somewhere and look for your happiness in real life. For them, the Internet is the only opportunity to get to know the opposite sex.
To get acquainted, this is understandable, but how about love? Can I find it in the endless Internet networks? The interviewed people were divided into two camps - those who believe in virtual love and those who categorically deny it.
Opponents of virtual love give their reasons.
Irina 27 years old, manager of : "Well, this is all garbage. There everything is not real, beginning with how a person describes himself, how he positions himself. Attentive person after a while can easily catch all the inconsistencies. There are those who did not realize themselves in real life, who, well, maybe not the complexes, but there are certain problems. "
Alina 31 years old, housewife : "I'm not sure that virtual love is happy and marriages are so durable. After all, virtuality can not be replaced by real communication, there are everyday problems that you will not notice through the computer. Two of my friends got married through a social network. So the crisis is already there. One pair - he is in France, she is in Moscow. There is a child, but they live in different countries. She could not leave her parents, he's his job. And continue to communicate mainly through the Internet. I do not know how long such a marriage will last. .. In general, it seems to me that through a virtual acquaintance, one can easily run into a "wife" with a bunch of children who just decided to have some fun. "
Larissa 32 years old, housewife : "I would honestly do not get acquainted through the Internet. Who knows who writes to you? Maybe not a boy at all. And the picture can be, what you want to put. You think: with the macho you correspond, and this is Vasya neither faces, nor figures. "
Inga 42, teacher : "Virtual romance, of course, maybe. .. And there are examples of girlfriends: it all started with simple correspondence, and ended with a wedding. But not always a good end, sometimes broken hearts. After all, all the same, communication live, much more can tell about a person, show his true face. And, hence, the relationship is built stronger when communicating is not virtual, but real. "
Supporters of virtual love are not afraid of possible difficulties associated with it, but are confidently storming the Internet in search of real relationships. And there is no obstacle for searching - the local network allows you to look into any corner of the Earth: from a neighboring street, to a country located at the other end of the world. Whatever opponents of online dating say, and today more and more virtual novels that turn into a real and quite successful marriage.
Anna 28 years old, housewife : "My friend met through the Internet with her future husband. At first they corresponded, they simply communicated for a long time in the network. Then we met in real life, began to meet, then live together. Now they have a son. A friend is older than her husband for 12 years, but this does not stop them from being happy! "
Luda, 32, tourism manager of :" I had a virtual acquaintance at the forum of interests. This acquaintance grew into a relationship that after three years ended in an unsuccessful pregnancy and a complete break. But at the time when it started, and from my side there was a 100% interest in this, still an unfamiliar person - I clearly remember one moment( when we did not have the same graphics), he left the house - from ICQ - at 10 am, and Iat 10 am only came to work. So, to chat with him on ICQ in the morning, I began to come to work by 9-00, which was very surprising colleagues. In general, in this communication in the network - there is something. .. You do not know and do not see a man, but you are interested in his thoughts, judgments, statements. Then, after some time of virtual communication, he sends you a photo and you jump from ecstasy, although he is not big and has a brown hair, and you always liked lean, high brunettes. Just during this time of communication, he already likes you all and looks his likeness somehow in advance. Well, I did not end up with a happy wedding and children, but the experience of the relationship was good. "
You can virtually get acquainted in a variety of ways. Some even manage to make friends through SMS messages, which then quite safely leads to the wedding. Do not remain forgotten and special dating sites. Here, too, you can meet as a partner for several nights, and half for life.
Valeria 33 years old, psychologist : "My friend, she is 30 years old, comes to a dating site to get acquainted with men for sex. It is motivated by the fact that it is not in the metro to get acquainted! She was married, but divorced, she has a daughter. Disappointed in marriage, she no longer wants any commitment. She is only interested in romantic relationships and feelings of love. Dating sites are suitable for these purposes as well as possible. "
Katerina is 30 years old, manager of : "I met Oleg two years ago on a dating site. I still lived in another city, and he lived in Moscow. In the beginning, we were just set on flirting, but then everything became serious. As a result, in April we have a wedding. Although no one from us did not expect this. "
Of course, there are often failures, disappointments. But they can easily be with a partner, whom you will meet in real life. From errors, no one is insured anywhere. One of my friends( a very good, kind guy) from photos liked a girl from the social network. He is 30, she is 22. Despite the fact that she lives in another country, they corresponded for a long time, often communicated by phone( imagine what accounts came for half an hour of international calls on the mobile!).In the end, he decided on a trip to her with very serious intentions. But after chatting with the girl live, my friend was very disappointed. In fact, his beloved was not a soft and accommodating domestic girl, but a powerful and self-righteous woman. With a heart-broken friend came home. But he did not despair, but again set off into a virtual search for his second half.
If someone suddenly "knock" at you, do not ignore it, but suddenly, this is the beginning of a virtual novel that can grow into real love for life.